Reinvention by Brian Tracy is a must read. The following passage caught my eye, and I realized that during the course of my life I have always made a seemingly bad situation turn into an opportunity. (job loss, end of relationships, financial difficulties). Of course I didn’t know that I was doing it at the time but for me, it was a survival mechanism, a much better choice than giving into despair. As my wise friend Elizabeth once told me: “Deb, you’re like a cat, you always land on your feet.”
Here is how Brian Tracy explains it.
A powerful tool you can use to regain control of your mind isreframing. The way you feel about a situation is how you interpret the event to yourself, either positively or negatively. In reframing you interpret the event in a positive way. You change your language. Instead of defining it as a problem you reframe it as a situation. A problem is something that is upsetting and stressful. A situation is something that you simply deal with. Better yet you can reframe a situation as a challenge. A challenge is something that you rise to, that brings out the very best in you. A challenge is a positive experience that you look forward to. Best of all you can interpret an unexpected setback as an opportunity. As you can see, there are real chances for personal growth here.
A job loss can be seen as an opportunity of new freedom to reinvent yourself. The loss of a home can be seen as a time to “downsize” and take stock of your life and your finances. The end of a relationship can get you the freedom you have craved in order to move forward into your new life. An Illness can force you to lose unhealthy weight and start a regimen of healthy eating and exercise. None of these situations is intrinsically either bad or good. It is your thinking that makes it that way.